The Prayer Gene

As I mentioned yesterday, the Wife Gene is no joke! But I truly feel like the Wife Gene loses all its power when it’s replaced by the Prayer Gene.


1. We go off the clock on “husband watch”. We are symbolically putting our husbands in God’s trustworthy hands instead of our own every time we pray. We can stop trying to fix and can simply love our husbands and lift them up to the Lord.

2. Our hearts soften to them. Remember the verse where God says to pray for our enemies? Something happens when we do that. Hopefully you don’t see your husband as your enemy, but maybe years of struggle have pitted you against each other. If you can even have compassion for your enemies, how much more could you discover for the man you once fell in love with?


prayersforhim1. Give us a pretty mask for fixing our husband. This isn’t an opportunity for you to sit and think about all your husbands flaws and give that list to God. How can you check your heart on your motives? Ask WHY you pray for your husband? Does it make you feel more frustrated and alert to his failings when you pray? Or does it help you rest in God’s plan?

2. Work like a magic pill. Stay consistent at it. Praying for our husband is just as much transforming our own hearts as it can our spouse’s.

You might be thinking, this is all well and good for most people, but your situation is too extreme. My friend, Lara, has an incredible story about what the Lord has done through her marriage. I am constantly amazed to see the transformation that has taken place in her and her marriage over the last few years. And she will say boldly that it was all because of the Lord! Read more about her marriage here and full story here.

I have to say, my own motive to share this post is from one of my goals this month. I’ve been working through my power sheets and one of my 10 goals for the next six months is to continue to grow and strengthen our marriage.

In five months, we will have a little baby competing for our time and attention and causing more than a few disagreements as far as parenting styles I’m sure. I really wanted to prepare our marriage as much as possible for this time! Some parents would probably say it’s impossible to prepare for it, but there is no harm in trying! : )

For my first monthly goal, I decided to create a PDF so that I could be more purposeful in praying for Tyler. Truth: I’ve been a Christian for 22 years and still forget how important prayer is and have never consistently prayed for Tyler. I’m hoping to change that!

Maybe you are in the same boat and just need an easy tool to guide you through the process. Or maybe you’ve never even thought of praying for your spouse. Whatever the reason, I really felt the Lord wanting me to share this, so I’m hoping it helps at least one person!

If you are not married, I think it would be such a blessing to your future spouse to start praying these things for that person you don’t even know yet!

I am NOT a Bible scholar, so the prayers I have put together come from two posts I read.  I’m not reinventing the wheel, just putting it in handy sheet form. : ) Also, I wanted to have seven prayers, one to pray each day of the week, so I’ve combined a few elements they mentioned to fit this format.

If you have seen prayer change your marriage or your own heart, I’d love for you to leave a comment!

Resources: 10 Prayers for Your Husband, How to Pray for Your Husband { Bible


Leave a Comment!!

  • Val, first I think it’s awesome that you are speaking out on what God has laid on your heart. You are an amazing person.
    It seems so obvious to pray for your spouse but so often we forget to pray for the ones closest to us so its wonderful to get reminded of that. The spread sheet is a great idea for someone like me. Way to often I get so caught up in trying to get this or that done before the day ends that I realize days later that I haven’t spent any quality time with God. Life is crazy as it is and we don’t even have children yet. I need to slow it down and put my life, dreams, and goals in God’s hands (and timing) and focus on what He has given me and nurture that.

    • Thanks Sophie! It really is crazy how less important things crowd out that time! I’m hoping this sheet helps me!! : )

  • I love this! My bible study has been reading ‘A Wife after God’s own heart’ and it touches on the key things to pray for our husbands just like you listed (so good to have a designed list though!). It’s so easy to be stuck in the selfish desires of our heart for our marriage or how was want or think our husbands should be, but its so important to hold our husbands up through prayer daily, so God can work through them as they lead our families. It is definitely something I forget to do a lot, but love this post as a big reminder!

    • Yes!! When I think about how powerful it could be if I prayed for my husband daily, I am always encouraged to make it more a part of my life! It’s such an amazing thing that normally goes untapped.

  • After about 6 months of praying about it, my husband got saved. In praying for him, I also saw my own heart change dramatically towards him. Prayer is such an amazing thing. Instead of getting angry, almost always, I just pray. As I learned in the reading The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian, there is a time to speak and a time not to. It’s usually best to pray. Men don’t want to hear you nagging all the time, which I don’t blame them honestly. Prayer changes things. Thank you for your wonderful advice, and you have a lovely blog! 🙂

    • That is awesome to hear and so so true! I have heard great things about that book. I’ll have to add it to my reading list! : )