Instead of a traditional blog post today, I wanted to give a life update on what’s been going on with our family. Our home life has a big impact on VMP and the past year has been a strange season for us.
Many of you know, Tyler has been an elder at our church for the last few years. About two and half years ago, our church was without a youth pastor. Tyler stepped in to volunteer as youth leader and did that role for about a year. I’ve learned from Tyler not to overthink God’s call on our life. We can spend so much time praying that honestly turns into stalling when really, there are needs all around us and God is simply calling us to step in. All that to say, Tyler didn’t feel this great big call to youth but he saw a need and knew he could help. That year grew a love for the local church for Tyler and after we found a wonderful youth pastor, Tyler stayed in the office to help in other ministry areas.
Each step has been just another step of obedience for Tyler and not super planned. As his wife, this can be stressful 😜 but as his sister in Christ, I am grateful to bear witness to how the Lord works when we say yes to things even if they’re out of our comfort zone.
Last Spring, Tyler began to serve as interim pastor. It was initially a temporary role planned for 3-6 months. We felt like this was the next step laid out for our family. About 2 months before the transition took place, I started doing prayer walks around our church campus every week before women’s bible study. Again, just another way the Lord was preparing us and honestly, giving confirmation to say yes to something that was very much outside of our plans.
After lots of prayer for the elders, staff and our family, the elders are proposing Tyler to become senior pastor in a permanent position. We’ve had the last month to really pray about this and what it would look like for our family. It would involve Tyler going to seminary and just a shift in our flexible entrepreneurial lifestyle. I’ve had all sorts of emotions from feeling unqualified to be a pastor’s wife and even feeling selfish to not wanting to share Tyler. Watching him in this role though, I cannot deny that God is doing something special somehow without my permission. 😜
When people ask me my thoughts, I say pretty honestly, that this was never something I would have handpicked for us. I was pretty happy with our current life! BUT it has felt so clearly what God is calling us to that I would never want to choose my comfort level over God’s plan. How foolish?
On Sunday, the elders shared with the congregation this proposal and there will be a process to determine if this is the right fit for our church.
After being an entrepreneur for the last 15 years, I’m very accustomed to being the sole decision-maker of VMP (with lots of prayer and Tyler’s input of course!) so this is new territory for me to hang out in this “wait and see” phase. All that said, I am excited to see what God does. Tyler has had so much support from the church staff, elders and body and it’s honestly been fun to see how God is using Him in such different ways from web and tech things in his past 15 years of work.
I think that’s the most fascinating thing. Watching this unfold knowing we never could have or would have planned for this! When Tyler became the interim, someone mentioned that we didn’t know what we were getting into. It was meant as a dig, but the truth is, we didn’t and that’s ok. That’s part of trusting God’s plan, isn’t it? We feel as prepared as we can be but we know there will be so many unknowns ahead. That’s why we need all the prayer we can get! 😉
Will you join us in praying?
– Prayers for our congregation as they discern this decision.
– Prayers for if this isn’t God’s plan it will be clear to all involved and unity to move forward.
– Prayers for Tyler and me to stay united.
– Prayers for the girls. This is all new to them too.
And if you’re a pastor’s wife or a pastor’s kid, I would love to hear the unexpected blessings of full-time ministry. This season reminds me of what had me wanting to write Grumpy Mom Takes a Holiday. When you’re pregnant, everyone wants to tell you “better sleep now while you can”, “everything’s about to change in your marriage”, basically all the negative stuff. I feel like I’ve been pretty well warned about the pressures and struggles of ministry so give me to the good stuff that I don’t even know is possible. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or leave a comment! It might encourage someone else too.