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Confessions from a former Mean Girl

1.14.2013 • 3 Comments

I was hit yesterday while I was worshipping in church with the thought that I have been a mean girl. It’s true, people. When I was in college, I’d have girls that I made friends with eventually tell me “When I first met you, I thought you were so mean. You never talked to me.”

confessionsofameangirlWaaaah?? Really? I couldn’t believe it! I don’t remember starting mean rumors, stealing boyfriends or lunch money. I do however remember being perfectly fine in my little bubble of friends. So comfortable that talking to others was at the bottom of my to-do list. And I never got to the bottom of my to-do list.

My shyness gets the best of me sometimes, but I’m learning to conquer that so I can make sure people know just how I feel: that they matter.

This is my public apology if I’ve ever been a mean girl to you. If I’ve ever made you feel like you didn’t matter. To be perfectly honest, I probably didn’t think you mattered. I just thought ME mattered. Selfishness got the best of me. God has definitely been working on my heart and given me a big desire to reach out to others and make sure they know the truth! They matter. No matter what this former mean girl thought. ; )

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Comments (6)

Love this! I have always experienced the same thing since high school. I am shy and prefer a close circle of friends, but I hate that I give off the mean vibe. Definitely something to think and pray about.

Agreed! I’ll be saying a prayer for all the former mean girls (who never wanted to be mean girls in the first place). ; )

People have told me the EXACT same thing… and what do you know? God has dealt similarly with me. The last thing I want is for people to feel intimidation or anything of that sort!

I know! It’s so crazy that this idea only hit me a few days ago. Definitely God speaking to me.

This is really open and honest. I am not really shy, but I was JUST fine with the small circle of friends I had. I have been blessed to overcome this mindset, but I know its an issue. I feel especially in today’s “us four, no more” society. I oft tell people now that struggle with this, “think about all that you have to offer to someone, God didn’t bless you with that not to share it!” I think this is awesome. Blessings to you!

Yes! I was in a group of 5 girls and that was enough for me. I didn’t think that God might want to use me to reach someone. Thanks for relating, Talia! ; )